Category Archives: The Mind Connection

Making Time

There is one thing in my life that I value above anything else. My time.

No job is so important that I cannot take time away from it – to give to myself or someone else should I need to. We must face facts, we don’t always have enough ‘time’ banked for when we require it and one day, we are all going to run out of it. This is not meant to be morbid, but a small nudging reminder that although we can’t see it – it is there – and it is ticking away. We must be smart!

When it comes to our jobs, our places of employment – we ‘collect’ time. I always found this fascinating. What if I collected 2 weeks worth of vacation days and then died before I could use them? I asked about this at my place of employment once and the reply I received was, “Monetary compensation for the days accumulated is paid out.” They actually put a price tag on my vacation. Stellar.

We all have only so much time. We waste our time the same way we waste food and water. We just can’t see time. I always thought it would be interesting to pile up hours as, say, bean bags. How many wasted hours would we have in a year? A decade?

I decided to conduct a little experiment (I love them!) with time. I took one day and wrote down everything I did – like a logbook. I treated it as though I were an employer….and I was the employee. Get it? I wanted to know how much time I wasted per average day.

I then decided to make it a little more interesting. I took a typical day of mine from four years ago and compared it to my current wasted time. There was a huge difference! The old me wasted on average 4 – 6 hours per day. Most of that would have been television and eating!

These days, I barely waste a minute! I’m always energized and on the go – I try to accomplish one major thing per day or more! It depends on the day and of course, plans can change. I roll with the changes and accommodate new  plans with little effort.

Time with my daughter is essential – like water. I adore the adventures she creates for us and the songs she makes up and giggles to when I mess with the words on purpose. We have fun together. We spend time together.

Spending time shouldn’t be wasting away in a job you can’t stand. Why be miserable when you have so many choices in life? I refuse to spend my valuable time being any negative emotion. It makes no sense to me! Sure, we all get worked up at times – but I always remember that time is precious. I don’t want to spend my time foolishly.

“I always thought they had more time.” This was the phrase that scared the bejeebers out of me! I heard it spoken over and over at funeral services I attended as a child. It made me shiver every time someone said it.

Time is ticking, and that’s a good thing! Isn’t it funny how time works? If you have to work a Saturday before a big concert – time goes so slow. When you finally get to the concert, you can’t believe how fast it went by! When we watch a movie we love, it seems like such a short flick…..but pop in that girly movie and watch time screech to a halt and ooze by for the next 3 hours and sixteen minutes (Titanic, anyone?).

We can’t put it in the bank like money and we can’t get it back once we spend it. We don’t have time to hang on to the bad. We must embrace the positive aspects in our lives and always improve who we are and how we feel. It is the way to wellness!

Spend a little, give a little and save a little. My grandfather’s sage words when it came to money. I changed it to better suit me these days, now I think of it in terms of time. I save the biggest portion for myself and my family – I give a little of my time away to others and I spend a lot of time with those that I care about most. It works for all of us!

We are not meant to fear things like time – to panic that it is running out. Like the wind, it isn’t here forever. It will ebb and flow and ours will fade one day. Enjoy it now – cherish it – encase yourself in the delights of life while you can! Let go of the bowsail and off you go!

There are no do-overs. It’s now or never. Are you getting the picture? Just do it. Move it or lose it……

Love, Me


Mind Over Matter

I have been learning a few things in my never-ending journey. Hard to believe, I know! It has been incredible – and those who used to know me certainly would be surprised (and in utter disbelief) of who I am now. A few short years of intense evolution – mind, body and soul – and here I am. Anew! I can only attribute it to one simple thing. Mind over matter.

There are several other key elements involved, but without mind over matter – you have a big pile of not much. It takes a unity of connections within yourself. That’s the mind, body, spirit connection!

If you believe you can’t, you certainly won’t. If you believe the outcome of your endeavor will be bad – it shall be. If you know it will be positive, then you will reap positive rewards. The outcome itself doesn’t really matter much – it’s the perspective in which we look at it. Feeling nauseous? Let me elaborate…..

Two women are attending the same party.

Woman number one is excited to go, taking her time to dress for it, have her hair done and rev herself up for a great night of fun and dancing! She spends the afternoon listening to her favorite music, swaying back and forth to the melody – unaware that anyone might be watching. She is lifted by her favorite tunes – inspired. She can even feel the light kisses of the wind drifting over her skin and she appreciates it all.

Woman number two is dreading the evening. She feels fat and guilty after eating the buffet for lunch that afternoon with her work colleagues. They had sat together and mocked other women because it made them feel better about themselves. It made them forget about themselves. She would rather sit at home and watch reruns on television tonight while she shovels tablespoon after nutritionally empty tablespoon of Hagen Daaz into her frown. She needs a haircut and her feet are already swollen. She is comfortable in her sweatpants for now. Dancing? Not on the agenda for the night.

What’s the difference in these two women? It’s obvious, isn’t it? I’ll tell you a little secret – both of them are me. Shocked? Don’t be – I just finished telling you I had changed. I wasn’t kidding. Woman number one is the present me. Woman number two was the old me. I’m certain I don’t have to tell you which me I prefer.

It all starts with the belief that you can. Do one little thing for me – go back into your memory banks and figure out the answer to this simple question: Who ever told you that you couldn’t? Think about it – it is the beginnings of something wonderful!

Love, Me