I remember hearing this throughout my life and I always thought to myself, “What a great way to get out of having to try!” I wasn’t aware then (or now) of what the definition of perfect was. I had never witnessed it.
No one ever sat me down and said to me that I had to try to be perfect in every way – it was something I thought we all just did. We learn this very young when we see our parents frantically rushing around before a dinner party getting everything just right. Perfect.
We get the picture even more as we grow up. Our school athletics department ensures we practice drills until we can’t take anymore, our mothers spit shined our faces so strangers didn’t think we were slobs and generally, you didn’t speak to anyone for fear you would embarrass your parents (I always tried very hard to accomplish this one).
Why do we try to be perfect anyway? Isn’t this a lot to live up to, especially when the end result is always disappointment (nobody is perfect). I can’t count the number of times I told myself to try even harder when there really was no possible way I could have accomplished what I had set out to do.
Will your kid’s big grade four hopscotch win make a huge difference in her later career? No, but it’s funny how cheerleading will. It is how we look at things – putting far too much emphasis on beauty and material things than true talent or behavior.
I speak to women every day who complain about how they are feeling and how they look. I give out compliments freely and I mean every single one of them. When I do, I see ladies wilt and a look of disbelief crosses their faces. No one takes in what I am saying, nor do they believe it. The opinion we have of ourselves is always negative – why? I aim to change this, ladies!
Perfection won’t happen – ever. Get over it. Our goal is to be the best us we can be. The simplicity does not lack intellect. Think about it. We will not look like Drew Barrymore because we are not Drew Barrymore! She is gorgeous, funny and talented but she isn’t perfect either (Drew, feel free to call me, we need to hang out!).
I have met so many genuine people who share their stories with me – and I am so grateful to them for that. Through them, I learn so much while sharing my story at the same time. I know that when I am open and honest about who I am, others feel safe to be that way with me too.
We must always be bettering ourselves. Learning is the most important aspect of this, in my humble opinion. Progress is the key to life! Sure, we are all on the same conveyor belt headed out-of-town – but let’s enjoy being perfectly imperfect, shall we? Who knows – maybe we’ll have a few good laughs along the way!